Until the answer is "yes," she will remain a prisoner.
But because she is "good," she swallows the rage. She turns it inward. The rage becomes acid reflux. It becomes insomnia at 3:00 AM. It becomes a quiet resentment that makes her feel guilty.
Stop explaining your needs as if they are a burden. Stop apologizing for taking up space. Your anger is not a sin; it is a compass. It tells you where your boundary has been crossed. El Sindrome De La Chica Buena Marta Martinez ...
Last Tuesday, Marta had a panic attack in the cereal aisle of the supermarket.
Why? Because she couldn't decide which brand to buy without considering what her husband, her mother, and her neighbor might think. Until the answer is "yes," she will remain a prisoner
“How can I be angry? They didn’t do anything wrong. I offered to help.”
Marta was raised on a very specific, very toxic diet of praise. Every time she put her own needs aside, the world rewarded her. "Marta, you are so mature for your age." "Marta, you never complain." "Marta, you are the perfect daughter." The rage becomes acid reflux
So, dear Marta Martínez, here is your permission slip to be a little "bad."